How to get (harmless) revenge on a cheater ex-boyfriend
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Cheating happens. Unfortunately I am one of the many people in this world that was betrayed by someone I loved and thought loved me. In a nutshell, after dating my boyfriend for 3 years, I discovered (via MySpace) that he had recently met a girl and started having a relationship with her. Needless to say, I was devastated, angry, sad, embarassed...you name it.
After meeting with "the other woman", we realized that neither of us did anything wrong and that he was the jerk in the situation. Instead of turning our energy against each other, we came up with several ideas on how to get some harmless revenge on a jerk who we knew needed to be taught a lesson. Enjoy!
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Five Ideas for Harmless Revenge
- Sell all jewelry he gave you - What better way to get revenge than to get money for the jewelry he gave you. You most likely aren't going to wear it and it will just be sitting in a drawer somewhere. Letting go of the jewelry can be therapeutic and help you move on. Sell what you can and then donate the rest. Someone should enjoy it! Check out this site to get started. Sell Gold Online
- Post flyers in your local party area - Most likely the guy is going to feel the need to find someone new now that both women in his life are gone. Make sure the innocent girls out there know who he is! Use a recent picture, use his real name, perhaps a few choice adjectives and print on bright paper. Find the most populated bar or club in your area and post away!
- Go on the air - After everything went down, I sent an email to a local radio station telling them what happened. They were very interested in the story and wanted to make a morning skit out of it. I didnt go through with it because I was still very hurt, but for those who are in full anger mode, this could be great!
- Rent a Mobile Billboard - I'm sure you've seen them, the trucks that drive around the city with a billboard attached to the back. These are an effective way to make sure that nobody misses your message. Its a step up from posting flyers, but a little expensive. I got an estimate of $1200 for one weekend and I could use a picture and say whatever I wanted as long as there was no profanity or adult content.
- Warn new love interests - With online social networks, it is very easy to know who the ex might be involved with. Dont be afraid to send that person (whether you know them or not) a message letting them know what happpened. Chances are they have been lied to as well and should know what they are getting themselves into.
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I agree with you Trish1048, what goes around will come back around again!!! I also have been very hurt by my ex boyfriend he is older. He was just a totally liar!!JERK. We were living together for 1 year he had lied to me about so many things and he thought I wouldn't find out, BUT I found out all about his dirty lies and secrets. He have scammed so many women and even his own family. A part of me wanted to get revenge but deep down inside some thing tells me he will be very sorry in the longer run! I am so happy for you! wish you all the best!!!!
The best revenge is living well.
Yes, I guess the best revenge is keeping my baby and live well...
Evolve beyond revenge :)
I think this could be dangerous advice to some, haha. I broke up with a girl a little while back who would do something like that even though I was as supportive and helpful as I possibly could be throughout the whole process. She probably wouldn't even stop at exaggeration either, she'd make something up..
I had the same experience and broke up with the liar 2 months back. Still in recovery stage. The worst part is that I have to work with him and see him everyday...showing how happy he is with the girl that he cheated me with. He is telling everyone that he is happily in love and never felt like this before and plan to get marry next year... what an inconsiderate jerk..
All my friends told me 'what comes around, goes around' and the time will come..and I hope it comes soon cos i am not the 1st victim that he cheated on..
Omg...! I ended my realationship 2 days ago and I am still in shock we were gonna merry and do it all, well deep down in my heart I always knew he wasn't right or completely honest, so I shoulnt really be that surprice but what can I say as much as I felt in my heart it was bound to happen still was not what I wanted well this is the sad part about it he called me to my office early in the morning we were sopouse to spend the weekend together but yeah ok well he call my boss is standing right next to me ant he had the nerve to tell me that he did something that will break us apart, I stopped him before he said anything I told him it's not the time and place , I asked him not to say it , just to end it and asked to never call me back I knew he had cheated I just didn't want to hear about it so I said my quick goodbyes and clicked that scumb bag call back and just screamed it his words were I didn't go home alone and I called him out and told how selfish and selfsenor he is he had ruin a great day I just can't get over the fact why when I ask not to say it just to end it he will really want to rubb it in my face db him I was honest loving and caring with him am just confuse... Plz help with some good feed back!!!
Im in the Army... my wife cheated on me with 4 men while i was deployed to the middle east. she lied to me the entire time i was gone and i didnt find out the actual truth till i got home and one of her female friends told me. She was hurt that she betrayed my wife's friendship but felt it was the right thing to do. Sadly she was living with the last guy and in a "serious" relationship with him. The guy knew we were married and just didnt care. Why anyone would want to be with a women who is capable of such things is beyond me. That was the hardest thing i have ever gone through in my life. harder then losing friends in action... women are the devil! lol
Thanks everyone for the feedback. Even though it's a tough thing to go through, it helps to know there are others out there who can relate. I agree that living well is the best revenge...it's the path I ultimately chose to take, but after seriously considering some revenge tactics! :)
I was totally played by the guy I fell in love with. Unbeknown to me he had a girlfriend. I ended up finding out over the internet and chatted with her a bit. At the time I wasnt completely honest with her as I didnt want to hurt her feelings but I was so crushed. He of course has denied everything and then dumped me completely. From being in contact with him nearly every hour of the day to dead silence. Well I'm not going to let him off that easy. My revenge is to write a letter to his girlfriend and be totally honest with her about what was going on between Jerame and I. Well she has the right to know doesnt she? He is a sneaky lying bastard and to top it off he had told me he wants to be with me but as he cant support himself at the moment he has to stay with her...when he is better organised then we can be together. Can you beleive that? This guy deserves whats coming to him...
I just found out that after a 6months relationship with a guy at work, that he was cheating on me with 2 other women. I trusted him so much and I believed all his lies, bit when I agreed to meet the other woman so I can really find put the truth, what does he do when he sees me, bother other than run me down in his car. Revenge isent on my mind but getting justice is. Some people can just turn out to be nothing like what u ever thought they were. Yes I did love h and he even proposed but trust me people, once a cheater always a cheater. All I know is my life will go on but he will end up a very sad lonly man in the end.
I know how you all feel coz i have been there to.
i was completely in love with this boy and he broke my heart. everyone says high school relationships dont work but i really thought it was going to with him. he was sweet and understanding. only now do i realise what a complete manipulating arsehole he was.
he told me he loved me... and then cheated on me
he said he would always tell me the truth.. and lied
he told me he was clean and against drugs... he was using weed
he said forever and always... and broke my heart
i agree with what comes around goes around but there is nothing more i would love than to get some revenge on him.
he has a new girlfriend now and i feel so sorry for her and what she has comming :( i would love to tell her what he is like but i dont want to ruin their relationship.. but i can tell you now if he ever even dares cheat on her he is going to have my fist in his face.
By moving on. Or get his engine hot and cool him down with water.
my boyfriend goes on myspace and flirts with girls. his friend list is all female. and he sees nothing wrong with this. even though i have told him it hurts me. what should i do?
my ex-boyfriend dumped me for no reason he told his friend to tell me i got dumped so what do i do now plus it seems like he was trying to get to my best friends cause when my best friends go in side i try to talk to him i say hey he walks in side plus people says hes using me for my kisses and he said at a buliding when me and my best friends are he said''iwill be right back'' i see him with my cousin(boy) up the road he should say that to my FACE that he going to dump me! LETS GET REVENGE!XD!!!
There is a Russian saying "if your bride leaves you for another man, it is not clear who is the lucky one." Meaning actually that it is you (the groom) who is lucky. Better sooner than later. Goes both ways. If a cheater leaves you, ask yourself, is this such a bad thing?
I know it hurts. Like hell. Rejection hurts. Lies hurt, when you are being lied to, the other person does not respect you. At all. But in every situation, there are two sides. That means you chose to be blind.
Revenge? My ex-husband? He was not a cheater, I broke the marriage, but when I saw how soon he replaced me, I was so hurt! Because I was told for so many years that he loved me so much and I believed him.
But! I did not sell the jewelery. Quite the opposite. I returned my wedding ring to him on our wedding anniversary, February 6th, 2005, and we only divorced in December 2009. Now I wear the wedding ring, and the other jewelery he bought me. Why? I don't know. I find it amusing. It is my history, it is part of me. Besides, nobody gets it - we wear our wedding rings on the right hand.
The revenge? I am afraid, that it is his new wife who has to suffer, but she makes her own choices. He? He remarried way too soon, and the probability of his second marriage working is next to nothing. He did not let the dust settle, he did not think what went wrong. He is going to repeat the same mistakes. It is going to be a rerun. But I still hope that it won't, I want him to be happy, because my son is involved, he does not need another family disaster.
Boyfriends? Oh, boy! Men are men, women are women. Both cheat, both lie, it is my responsibility to learn to be more selective and learn how to tell the good from the bad. But if cheating happens, it happens, just leave. Maybe with a little bit of sting. I am writing my "Armando Story" - about a guy who is a player and a serial dater. I met one of his former girlfriends and I am grateful for the whole thing, the story, the lesson and the consequences. It is only life. Live, learn, move on.
All the best to everyone,
Well I found this thread by chance and I must say it made me wake up,I have been with this guy for 7 months now and just about two weeks ago I found out that he had lied to me saying he was going to see his mom in georgia for xmas,found out he was in virginia with this other woman,whom he has been seeing for 10 months,I also found out that wasnt the first time he had been to see her since we got together,he denied it of course and I stayed and wanted to work things out!!!! Then for new years he said he was going to see his family in nj,just found out today that he was somewhere else with two other girls,he denies that but I have proof,So in all,the past two weeks I have found out about 4 other women,one who possibly might be pregnant,none of them he used condoms with,and has also been trying to get me pregnant!!! I dont know what to do next!!! Any advice????
I know they say what comes around goes around, but my ex wife seems to manipulitive for that. I should just move on and be happy, which I am, but still would like to see something happen to her since I had to start all over again.
i too av gne threw this 7 yrs and 2 kids my ex cheated on me and hurt me so bad, i thought it was all my fault it just turns out its him, he now has 2 kids wiv the other girl and cheating on her they av bin togeva 4 2 yrs and they are avin problems she feels insecure and thinks hes sleepin wiv me haha wot goes rownd cums rownd and im gettin my life on track wiv my beautiful kids that he really dunt bova wiv but im happy free and single and love it that way xx chin up life will get better x
If someone cheats on me they deserve to be exposed! I absolutely believe in "harmless revenge" -- it does not make you psycho! Too many men get away with extremely poor, criminal behavior because we just turn a blind eye and *hope* Karma is served. Well, guess what - I am part of that Karma! I will post fliers, post on their FB what they did (if possible), make an entry on site like dontdatehimgirl.com and womansavers.com, contact the women they were cheating with and call them out. I deserver to be heard! Cheating is wrong in SO many ways and our society tolerates it TOO much!!
I guess it's nice to know that you aren't the only one in this situation, but that really doesn't lessen the hurt. I am torn between stopping him from doing it to someone else, or just trying to let go and get on with my life. I was divorced 5 years ago from a man who chose to have sex with his students (college professor), after 18 years of marriage. Two years later, I started dating the "perfect" guy who told me he had just separated from his wife, who had been cheating on him, and was pursuing divorce. 3 years later, I find that was all a lie, he was still married, his wife never cheated on him, and knew nothing about us. This happened one month after he proposed and we set a date. I should have been wary after he met my whole family, but always found a reason why I couldn't yet meet his. We live in different states, so he probably could have gone through the marriage and who knows? I may haven't found out for years. I want to rip his heart out and feed it to my dog, but that is too good for him.
Really depress..i Found it out again that my bf whom i eventually loved lied and cheated me again..not just happen 3X but so many times, He even texted my bestfriend and flirted her and then again i found it out she was in dating site again...Can you give me advice how to get revenge on him?
I just found out that my wife has been cheating for me. I thought she was a good Christian and never thought that this could happen to me. She betrayed me and Gods covenant of marriage. Even though she was the one who made the choice, I feel it is best to not get revenge. Let God take care of that. I still love her and miss her, but I must move on with my life. I am now in the middle of getting the divorce papers. My heart goes out to anyone, male or female who has had their heart broken by their spouse from cheating. This world is a sinful world. dont add to it by getting revenge, just move on and who knows maybe we will find someone better and find love again.
PS: I really need to proof read my posts before I post them up.
*cheating on me, (not) "Cheating for me" lol
Haha, well, I think this page is bril! I love these ideas, cuz my best friend was just scammed by a boy who was already with someone else, so we aren't gonna let it go. Say what you will, but to be old and wise and make the chioce to move on and be the bigger person, you first have to be young and stupid and do the complete opposite!!!!! :)))) Thanks again for the suggestions. ;)
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my husband of 25+ years cheated on me. lied to the faces of me, our children, my sister, etc... he is shacked up with the CSGS that he cheated on me with. she is a anger therapist but advised him to end his marriage. is she a licensed psychologist?? the betrayal and lack of respect has hurt me and the kids to the core. please tell me he will get what is coming to him. he has destroyed our family. i don;t know if the kids will ever talk to him again. we are all on rx meds becuase of this and he is happily scr#$ing his brains out with this Wh$re. i think the betrayal and lying is what hurts the most. give me a web site where i can expose their names.
2 days ago i found my boyfriend in bed wit a prostitute.i got so hurt that i freaked out n couldnt react.right now ia confused i wanna revenge and he got to pay for all he has done.i dnt care how but i got to do something hel live to remember
My ex lied, cheated and stole from me. He lied so many times and slept with two other women. Well the ding dong gave me all his passwords so I went to town on his Facebook. I was so upset and basically I was destroying any reconciliation. The whole thing- what he did and my revenge created just ugliness and it's finally over. I regret seeking revenge but it did help me get away from him. He was bad ...
hello All,
I truly loved someone, he had fun with me and dumped me saying his parents wont agree. I broke my relationship with friends and family for him and he s marring a girl whom his parents are searching for... so totally a looser... If you were me i am sure u would want a revange.
My husband cheated on me...
my husband who is 20 years old than me cheated on me with a woman older than him ,on her menopause phase,lololol i can`t believe ....she was a friend of his older sister .she is married,living far away but sending him emails and photos of love ,flowers,and bears hahaha seriously this is funny somehow.my husband ignored her in the beginning then couldn`t resist her .all he did is answering her mails .no sex physically but i feel so angry.he couldn`t deny because i showed him all the emails but he cried and ask forgiveness.honestly i can`t forgive him i`m just under shock......i have her home and cell phone but i feel stupid fighting with an old woman for a man even if he is my husband.she is old i`m very young i can easily get better hhhhhhhh
My wife of 11 months started cheating with a co-worker( a real ugly dude) on me at the 6 month mark. She stole money and was still in love with her ex. So I ask myself do I want revenge? After a long time plotting my revenge by exposing her. I decided that I didn't want revenge at all. I actually felt bad that she was so corrupted and she would have to live the rest of her life knowing how much of a dirty, cheating, lying, stealing bit$h she really is. One day I may thank her boyfriend for taking her off my hands and giving me a chance to find my real wife. Plus I'm no brad Pitt but I was too good-looking for her anyway and just a couple nights ago she saw me on a date with a girl iv been seeing for a while now and this girl is way Hotter... Lol... Sweet satisfaction.
i have had something similar happen to me but it was to a friend of mine who had been in a relationship with a married man and they even took a holiday together to visit me but she didn't find out until a few months into their relationship she found out about it through his phone where there was a message from his wife saying "i miss you xxxx" however she got her revenge by calling his wife about it from his phone and told her all about the affair and how sorry she was about everything.
My sweet, loving boyfriend has been sleeping with his ex for the past year of our relationship. She's one of my bosses. I hate going to work. Since I found out las week he has changed into a monster I dont even know. He blames me for his cheating. I wish I could get great revenge but I'm too broken right now to come up with a good plan.
My sweet, loving boyfriend has been sleeping with his ex for the past year of our relationship. She's one of my bosses. I hate going to work. Since I found out las week he has changed into a monster I dont even know. He blames me for his cheating. I wish I could get great revenge but I'm too broken right now to come up with a good plan.
I sincerely hope no guy ever cheats on me. For his sake. My father was a serial cheater so I became very very angry over the whole cheating thing. I look at someone who cheats the same way I look at a pedophile. Total and complete disgust. It sounds totally psycho but I tell every gy i'm with that I will kill them if they cheat. If they want to be with someone else they can just break up with meOtherwise they will die. PERIOD!!
my (ex)wife cheated, multiple times, during our marriage, she was so proud of her self, she made sure there were digital pictures. Too bad she was stupid enough to assume that her last soul-mate (married too) wasn't so sloppy and left enough evidence that his wife found said pictures. I believe that the least offensive one is posted on cheaterville dot com. No revenge here, I just got to sit back and watch the drama, but with much disinterest. She's a f*cked up life time looser. Good riddance
Ive had two 4 yr relationships that have ended the same way .. ie .. a name change of a work colleague on a phone disguised as a female..so called 'male friends' ... in both cases i was cheated on and found out about it .. the hurt is teriffic and i have thought of revenge .. i have naked pics of my ex's but i dont think id be proud of myself to use them ! .. i want to believe in what goes around comes around but im a bit impatient .. i want her to pay for the heartache,pain she has caused ...but ive done nothing yet ..only living and hoping things turn around quickly.
Isad
If your man cheats on you, the best revenge is to let her have him...
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I believe in revenge as long as it doesn't physically harm someone. Too many married men are cheating on their wives and getting away with it. Mental games and mild property damage can go a long way...I believe in hurting a man financially. That's the best payback.
trish1048 Level 3 Commenter 3 years ago
Hi,
While the above are some ways to 'get even',,,the best is doing nothing. There is much truth to 'what comes around, goes around' (or vice-versa).
I once had a 'best friend' in high school. I was dating a guy a bit older than me, and we had a date around the holidays. So, he picked me up, and after about an hour, was heading back to my house. I asked, what are you doing? his reply, 'I'm not fit company today'. Sooooo he dumps me off, leaves. I am so upset I hop in my car and drive to my 'best friend's' house. As I pull up, what do I see but MY boyfriend escorting her out to his car along with her parents! They did end up marrying.
I eventually got over it, and after I had been married for a number years, ran into my old 'best friend'. I said hi, how are you and Bob doing? She replied, oh, we're divorced. In my head I was saying 'it serves you right'. She inquired about me, and I gleefully told her I was happily married with two children. You couldn't have wiped the smile from my face, I was glowing the rest of the day :)
Happy hubbing!